Islamic Parenting System

                                                                            قدرت کے تحفے۔                   قدرت نے انسان کو بے شمار نعمتوں سے نوازا ہے جن کا شمار ناممکن ہے ۔ یہ تمام نعمتیں انسان کی بھلائی اور بہتری کے لیے ہیں ۔ بے شمار نعمتوں میں سے کچھ نعمتوں کے بارے میں جانتے ہیں ان کی افادیت کیا ہے طب نبوی صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم اور احادیث مبارکہ میں ان کے بارے میں کیا بیان کیا گیا ہے ۔                              کھجور   حدیث پاک ہے حضرت محمد صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم نے فرمایا بے شک کھجور میں شفا ہے ۔ کھجورحضور پاک صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم کی پسندیدہ چیز ہے ۔ کھجور کے بے شمار فوائد ہیں جن کا شمار نہیں کیا جا سکتا ۔ ۔کھجور جسم کو بہت زیادہ طاقت دیتی ہے دبلے جسم کو فربہ...

 As children get older, that confidence can be as important as the skills themselves. To thrive, kids need to trust in their own capabilities while, at the same time, knowing that they can handle it if they aren’t successful at something. It’s by experiencing mastery and rebounding from failure that they develop healthy self-confidence . Here are some ways you can set kids up to feel capable and get the most mileage out of their skills and talents. Model confidence yourself.  Don’t get upset about mistakes. Encourage them to try new things. Allow kids to fail. Help kids to find their passion.  Set goals . Celebrate their effort.  Set them up for success.   Show your love.

 Family meetings and meal times Quality Family Time: To discuss any issues and the smooth running of the family home – let family members take turns to chair the meeting. Children will learn the importance of the family unit and will love being in charge! Through such family meetings, we are teaching them to be leaders, to manage and be managed, presentation and speaking skills and how to resolve issues. A lot of important information is exchanged over meal times because everyone comes together to share their day, their plans and experiences. If we can establish strong family ties, our children as the future members of the ummah will be able to build a strong community in sha Allah.  Play with your kids: Have Fun Play a family game together. In my meetings with my children, we say one thing we love about each other and if someone is upset we all come together for a “family hug” – it’s such a great feeling of security and warmth knowing your family is there for you. We will dis...

 Engage the kids in beneficial activities. Expose your children to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He)’s creation and by taking them for walks in the parks, visiting the zoo, or watching the sunset –  My children love it and they love watching the moon and the stars the most! Many of our Islamic activities are built upon the lunar system: . Let them understand the rising and setting of the moon and the sun – it reconnects them with Allah’s creation and Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) Himself. Teach your children swimming, horse riding, famous proverbs and good poetry. Gardening is another great activity you can do with them.     In a hadith, the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) said “Teach your children swimming, archery and horse riding”. In another narration, he said, “Practice archery and horseback riding.” [Sahih Muslim] Cut the electronic baby sitter to a bare minimum – I mean the television. If you can do ...

 Importance of salah. The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven and punish them for neglecting it when they reach the age of ten.” [Abu Dawud] Be punctual with your salah, get into the habit of praying at the earliest hour, teach this to your children, and they will be more than likely to be punctual in everything else they do. Make prayer times a family event: even if children are not of age, let them join in or sit quietly; so that when salah becomes obligatory upon them, they are firm and ready to speak to the King of kings with full concentration  Once our Prophet asked his Companions: - What do you say? If there is a river in front of the house of one you and if that person takes a bath in that river five times a day, would there be any filth left on him? The Companions said: - There would not be any filth left on him. Our Prophet said: - “Praying five times a day is just like...

  Embed the love and power of Allah in your children Teach them to say “la-illaha illa Allah” (there is no god but Allah) as a start of establishing the love of Allah. Allah says: “O ye who believe, save yourself and your family from the fire.” [Qur’an: Chapter 6, Verse 66] Instill in them the belief that all things happen by the will of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He): if they ask you for something, ask them to pray two rakaahs with you and make du’aa to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) to provide whatever they want. This way, you’re teaching your child that when we ask, we ask from Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) alone, and we rely on Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) for our provision. Teach them to love Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and follow His laws through your conversations with them. It’s absolutely crucial for our children to understand ...

" Raising productive and confident    Muslim kid" Productive moms’ goals are: To establish the oneness of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) in their hearts • To love the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) • To teach them life skills and values that will see them into adulthood. But where do we start? Where Luqman [as] did! His main focus was to establish Allah in his son’s heart, by teaching him:  • that God (Allah) is One, and the Only: He has no partners or associates • that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) knows everything in the heavens and the earth and is aware of everything you do • to have and develop clear goals in life • to have a clear vision and focus of life Let’s get started!  In our next blog we will share some essential skills to raise productive and confident kid .