Successful child is a successful man..

 Salam to my all readers .

How are you I hope you are all well and happy and enjoying the good health.

 After a long time I have contacted you again I am feeling very happy and excited to write again and to complete this blog .

As we mentioned in the previous blogs about the children's training today I will tell you further about these 5 basic principles of islam about children training.

These are:

Ø Children are born pure in nature

Ø Parents are responsible to lead and guide the children

Ø All the guidance done with mercy and kindness

Ø Children need boundaries

Ø Children need responsibilities to follow

These are the five main principles to follow.

NOW we are going to explain and understand them one by one in comprehensive way. 

Principle#1 Children are born pure

Our beloved Muhammad s.a.w.w said:

“No child is born except on al fitra (human nature)and then his parents make him jewish, Christian ,or magi an”

The hadith states that Allah has created children pure and sinless no blame can be placed on a child if he do anything wrong till he reaches at the age of 10.

No child has any intention of doing wrong except he has seen ,heard, felt and learnt from the environment.

REMEMBER THAT: Child is innocent and pure if he or she misbehaves then look at his or her environment for a possible cause and reason behind this.

Principle#2

"Parents are responsible to lead and guide the children"

"Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for his charges. The ruler who has authority over people, is a guardian and is responsible for them; a man is a guardian of his family and is responsible for them; a woman is a guardian of her husband’s house and children and is responsible for them; a slave is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it; so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your charges.” [Sahih al-Bukhari]

The child is new to the world so he does not yet know what to do.

His parents are the ones charged with this responsibility to lead, guide and take care of him. If left alone, the child could go either way depending on who he meets and interacts with. 

Principle#3

All the guidance done with mercy and kindness

It was narrated from ‘Abdullah bin Shaddad raḍyAllāhu 'anhu (may Allāh be pleased with him) that his father said: “The Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) came out to us for one of the nighttime prayers, and he was carrying Hasan raḍyAllāhu 'anhu (may Allāh be pleased with him) or Husain raḍyAllāhu 'anhu (may Allāh be pleased with him). The Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) came forward and put him down, then he said the Takbir and started to pray. He prostrated during his prayer, and made the prostration lengthy.” My father said: “I raised my head and saw the child on the back of the Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) while he was prostrating so I went back to my prostration. When the Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) finished praying, the people said: “O Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him), you prostrated during the prayer for so long that we thought that something had happened or that you were receiving a revelation.’ He said: ‘No such thing happened. But my son was riding on my back and I did not like to disturb him until he had had enough.” [Sunan an-Nasa’i]

Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) understood that it is in a child’s nature to play, and therefore he ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) did not stop them. We must understand that playing and ‘kidding’ are vital for the proper development of a child, as they benefit his physical, emotional, cognitive and social development.

We know how important cuddles are for infants to make them feel safe and happy. Physical affection should not be stopped when your child grows up. Of course, you can limit it as your child gets older, but never put an end to it.

Remember:

When your child does mischief, instead of scolding and blaming, hug or pat him and say, ‘I forgive you. Let’s fix it!’ and then, explain his mistake and suggest a way to rectify it. It can also be saying ‘astaghfir-Allah’ or an apology to you or someone else.

Principle#4

Children need boundaries

We will discuss principle number four in our next blog.

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